Why women have affairs?
Chat about a loaded theme that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on since old ages. Extramarital relationships can be fraught with troubles, cause sorrow, and other troubles. Plus you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, funds, age difference, religious education, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I should define an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, married woman looking for dating married men.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking an affair. I suppose typically though it is just the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the real world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to switch the desire on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos society has erected against married dating. For lots of individuals the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but society too. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your spouse or anyone else? You will need to lessen the risk you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest cluster, huge in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are comfortable in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to think about. Your finances are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Ignoring, sadly this is a frequent cause I fear. One or the other, usually the guy is sexually neglecting his spouse for a multitude of reasons. As a man I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us males of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is not here, maybe it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed separately, our ordinary interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.